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This is a great article, and very smart to separate it into "things that hurt only the procrasinator" and "things that hurt others". What about a case where one person always likes to be at places early and not be rushing to get anywhere, and the other person likes to be on their own time and not worry if they get places at the last minute or a little late. So they "procrastinate getting out the front door". You have annoying conversations like "Are you ready?" "I'm coming!" (5 minutes later) "Can we leave now?" "I *told* you I'm coming"! The person who likes to be places right on time or even a little late--there have never been any *real* consequences for their behavior. They eventually get places, they never missed a doctors appointment or anything like that. It is just so stressful to the person who likes to be everywhere early (which the other person sees as a waste of time).

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J. M. Barrie (author of “Peter Pan”) wrote something that has stayed with me for years — i’m paraphrasing, but he wrote that we tend to judge other people by their behavior and ourselves by our intentions.

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