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With a little bit of terror and the feeling that I might vomit at any minute, I called my first-ever coaching client with little to no confidence that I would actually be able to help him.
He lives in England. Because I didn’t have an international calling plan yet, my first coaching phone call cost me way more than the billing invoice I sent him. We spoke regularly for a few months and then eventually parted ways as it happens. His marriage was in really bad shape and he wasn’t living at home with his wife and children.
Out of nowhere, he wrote me this past Valentine’s Day to tell me that he and his wife are still together.
“I want you to know that the wisdom and understanding that you gave me has played a huge part in saving my marriage,” he said. “You helped me to begin the process of taking responsibility for the part that I played in the breakdown of the relationship. Without the insight into my own behaviour that you provided, I do not believe that I would have had the self-awareness or the strength to do the necessary work to save the marriage.”
My guy.
With a similar level of anxiety to that first time I called him, but also with a whole bunch of hope, I’m excited to launch the next phase of this relationship-coaching adventure.
Welcome to Group with Matthew Fray
What is it?
As I see it, it’s a much more affordable way to do meaningful self and relationship work, but with the added bonus of not being stuck talking with only me. Other Group members will have their own unique stories and shared experiences to contribute, and I’m fully expecting it to evolve into a collective greater-than-the-sum-of-its-parts situation. If you’ve not experienced the incredible feeling of Holy shit. I’m not the only one who goes through this, you’re in for a treat. It’s life-changing to realize you’re not alone. And I promise you: You’re not alone.
You can learn more and sign up for Group here.
Our first meeting will be Friday, July 12 at 12 p.m. ET (9 a.m. PT). There might not be many of us to start, but that’s probably to be expected.
Where and when do we meet?
We meet on the Zoom video conferencing platform, just as we do in my one-on-one coaching work.
I’m starting Group with the mindset that I’ll need to be both flexible and responsive to the diverse wants and needs of our membership as we grow. But here at the beginning, we’re going to start with standing 90-minute meeting times on Mondays and Fridays. Members are invited to attend as many meetings as they’d like to, and come and go as they please.
We will have a Men’s-only meeting each Monday at 12 p.m. ET (9 a.m. PT).
We will have a Mixed-group meeting (women and men) each Friday at 12 p.m. ET (9 a.m. PT).
When new members sign up, I will personally email you a document with the meeting links, along with an invitation to join our new private online community at Discord.
(Update: I’ve already run into a problem where the email I’m trying to send to a new Group member is bouncing because it’s an invalid email address or their mailbox is full. PLEASE make sure I can email you the information you’ll need to join meetings, or reach out to me privately.)
Notes: Why is there a men’s-only meeting? I don’t love the idea of excluding members from certain meetings, but I do feel as if it’s very important for men to have a place to share and discuss relational topics with each other because typically, men don’t have many opportunities to do this in everyday life.
Also, I’m not planning on trying to lead a women’s-only meeting, because I don’t view myself as an appropriate facilitator of a private women’s group.
I trust that everyone will understand that.
The Discord server is intended to be an extension of our coaching/support Group in the form of a virtual community. It’s a place where members can form meaningful friendships, find support in others who share similar experiences, and hopefully have a little fun in the process.
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About Scheduling and Privacy
Group will be both flexible and responsive to the diverse wants and needs of our membership as we grow. The current times and days of the week for Group meetings are simply my best attempt at being available to the largest amount of people. Please let me know if you’d like to join us but would require different days and times of day in order to do so.
I care about your privacy, but must ask members to be responsible for theirs
I’ve been meeting strangers and engaged in online relationship coaching for six years now, and I haven’t met anyone in this work yet who behaved in a creepy or scary way. But the world is a strange place and I encourage you to take whatever precautions make sense for you.
Please consider that you will not be required to show yourself on camera, use or display your real name, nor share private details of your personal and family life with me or anyone else (though I do believe you’ll discover great value in sharing your story with others).
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I hope you’ll find the experience as illuminating, growth-oriented, connecting, and personally gratifying as individual coaching has been for me over the past six years.
Making things better—making the world better—starts at home.
Join Group with Matthew Fray here.
Matthew Fray is the author of “This is How Your Marriage Ends: A Hopeful Approach to Saving Relationships”, a relationship coach, and formerly the blogger at Must Be This Tall To Ride.