Two people shoveling coal keep things running smoothly. One person shoveling coal can get you by temporarily while the other is busy or recovering. But if both stop? Everything grinds to a halt.
Same old story. I have been married twice (one divorce and one death) and am currently in an 8 year relationship. Maybe it's me, but it's my general experience (for me and most of my female friends) that women do the heavy lifting in a relationship. Men show up to eat the anniversary cake and smile. I am guessing that most of the people getting this news letter are women. I appreciate that the author has "seen the light", but it took his wife leaving with his child. Our society has to change. I will say that my son went through a divorce after a short marriage and 5 years later he remarried and I can tell that he is totally invested in his marriage. He makes sure his wife knows he appreciates her, he does all the grocery shopping and cooking and as much child care as he can while working full time. So maybe the next generation will do better. But the patriarchy has to dissolve.
I didn't shovel enough for a long time.