Our brains sometimes invent new negatives to replace ones we've eliminated. If we're in relationships where repair is happening, this phenomenon can emerge as an obstacle. Something to watch out for.
Gottman (and likely others) refers to this as “negative sentiment override” where you get what you’re looking for and it’s all negative.
Terrance Real refers to it as the Core Negative Image (CNI), and has some explicit guidance on how to recognize when that is shaping the interaction.
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Gottman (and likely others) refers to this as “negative sentiment override” where you get what you’re looking for and it’s all negative.
Terrance Real refers to it as the Core Negative Image (CNI), and has some explicit guidance on how to recognize when that is shaping the interaction.
I've been a paid subscriber to this newsletter for a month and this is the only post I've ever gotten. Am I missing something?