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Catherine Baab's avatar

Hey Matt, great post. Maybe it's equally good to ignore 19 million people given the likely ratio of trolls? For what it's worth, I tend to think avoiding the attention of 19 million people at once may be the much more rational, sane choice! Anyway, there's an old, humorous self-help book you might really like - Be Glad You're Neurotic. I have a similar personality and it made me laugh (and see the upside): https://www.amazon.com/youre-neurotic-Louis-Edward-Bisch/dp/B0007G1TD4

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John Riley's avatar

The sort of "inner work" you're talking about here is something I've just realized in the last few years I haven't done enough of. It really does take courage to be completely honest with oneself, to learn from negative experiences or hard lessons, to seek to understand my motives truthfully. I think guilt and shame about my past effectively "gummed up the works" and made me hesitant to dig too deep into past trauma and understand why I am the way I am. I've gotten some professional help but need more. Additionally, I've learned fairly late in life that I may be autistic, which has also helped explain some things. I am lucky to have a partner who has spent her lifetime working on herself; it is solely our relationship that has provided the impetus for me to continue to make progress in self-knowledge and self-love. Also, your writing, including This is How Your Marriage Ends, has been extremely helpful to me. Thank you!

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