My parents learned about the pregnancy when my mom's morning sickness appeared during their honeymoon. They didn't know about me prior to their wedding. This is somehow life-changing for me.
I'm not an "oops" baby, but I had two of them. I talked to my kids about it, starting when they were in middle school, and explained that even though they were "unplanned", they were wanted, and I'm pretty sure they believed me, because I also told them about the abortion I had had before, when I got pregnant in spite of my IUD, when I had just quit my job in protest of more responsibilities, less staff, and a nickel raise. My husband was in school and had a part-time job, but that was all. And pregnancy made it very difficult for women to get and keep a good job (1980). So I had an abortion. But I didn't abort them when they came along, because by then I had a good job, my husband had graduated and had a good job, and I wanted them. So I think they're okay with it. And I think the vast majority of people are "oops" babies, to be honest.
I'm not an "oops" baby, but I had two of them. I talked to my kids about it, starting when they were in middle school, and explained that even though they were "unplanned", they were wanted, and I'm pretty sure they believed me, because I also told them about the abortion I had had before, when I got pregnant in spite of my IUD, when I had just quit my job in protest of more responsibilities, less staff, and a nickel raise. My husband was in school and had a part-time job, but that was all. And pregnancy made it very difficult for women to get and keep a good job (1980). So I had an abortion. But I didn't abort them when they came along, because by then I had a good job, my husband had graduated and had a good job, and I wanted them. So I think they're okay with it. And I think the vast majority of people are "oops" babies, to be honest.