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PansyAss's avatar

As always Matthew, great read! From personal experience, I will always say our personalities have their place in our relationships, right, wrong or indifferent. I'll set the stage in my case: quiet non-confrontational door mat people pleaser (me) marries a covert narcissist (hubby). Early in our relationship, I would overlook his treatment of me because of...well...love. But after awhile, I couldn't understand why we fought so much or why he would give me the silent treatment for days. I would (calmly) try to talk to him about my concerns with our marriage. His reaction - or lack thereof - would throw this non-confrontational female into a raging maniac. I found my voice and stood up for myself. But in a way, I lost myself as well. I didn't want to be a raging maniac - I just wanted him to hear me (oh, and I said some pretty terrible things at times). In his mind, I was the "typical" raging asshole wife; in my mind, I was tired of his narcissistic bullshit. PERSONALITY and PERSPECTIVE: the PPs of relationships that will get in the way of building trust every time.

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DM79's avatar

It seems that so often, some of the Christian community is quick to attack feminism. They claim to subscribe to equality while espousing ideas that are contrary. Patriarchal harm is condoned and promoted.

Flying Free is a Christian podcast about the harms suffered by women in such circumstances. I challenge anyone who doubts the existence and prevalence of this dynamic to listen to it.

Ps. Matt- amazing article. Thank you for your work.

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