I really appreciate your willingness to write about the way religion/church culture often causes, unintended or not, serious harm for a lot of people struggling in relationships and other aspects of life. I absolutely relate. Thank you for speaking out!
I don’t know that I believe religious life is the cause so much as I believe there’s an undeniable correlation—specifically with boys and men.
When you have a bunch of super-sacred True things to worry about, it’s really hard to take seriously someone who says “hey, it really hurt me when you did [whatever happened]” and the Whatever Happened isn’t a moral or seemingly “big” issue.
Invalidation and emotional abandonment over the so-called little things is, in my estimation, the #1 trust killer and destroyer of long-term committed partnerships, married or otherwise.
Hey Matthew, we should book a time to talk as I'd like to feature your work on relationships in upcoming StoryShed Season 7: Daytalking, which is all about relationships, friendships, partnerships and lovers. You game?
Hey Mike. Of course. Or we can just talk about how impossibly nice the Twin-Cities are in autumn. Whatever you want. Please email me at mf@matthewfray.com to coordinate whenever you have the bandwidth. Thanks for asking.
I really appreciate your willingness to write about the way religion/church culture often causes, unintended or not, serious harm for a lot of people struggling in relationships and other aspects of life. I absolutely relate. Thank you for speaking out!
I don’t know that I believe religious life is the cause so much as I believe there’s an undeniable correlation—specifically with boys and men.
When you have a bunch of super-sacred True things to worry about, it’s really hard to take seriously someone who says “hey, it really hurt me when you did [whatever happened]” and the Whatever Happened isn’t a moral or seemingly “big” issue.
Invalidation and emotional abandonment over the so-called little things is, in my estimation, the #1 trust killer and destroyer of long-term committed partnerships, married or otherwise.
Thanks for reading and commenting.
Hey Matthew, we should book a time to talk as I'd like to feature your work on relationships in upcoming StoryShed Season 7: Daytalking, which is all about relationships, friendships, partnerships and lovers. You game?
Hey Mike. Of course. Or we can just talk about how impossibly nice the Twin-Cities are in autumn. Whatever you want. Please email me at mf@matthewfray.com to coordinate whenever you have the bandwidth. Thanks for asking.