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Matthew Fray is a relationship coach, blogger, and author of This is How Your Marriage Ends: A Hopeful Approach to Saving Relationships.

Featured In: The New York Times • The Atlantic • The Wall Street Journal • NPR • The Times of London • The Tamron Hall Show • BBC Radio • On Air with Ryan Seacrest • HuffPost

My marriage ended in 2013. It involved a lot of sobbing, self-loathing, and feeling sorry for myself. A drunken phone call with a phone-a-therapist prompted me to “journal my feelings,” only instead of writing in a private journal like an adult, I drank more alcohol and published it to the internet.

I found new life and purpose blogging about the end of my marriage, discussing relationships with others, and self-reflecting on how my own beliefs and actions contributed to my family’s demise. A bunch of people said it looked, sounded, and felt just like their marriage, and we all had a holy shit moment together, realizing collectively that our relationship conflict and trust-erosion patterns are all pretty much the same.

That journey blossomed into a new career as a relationship coach, and then, an opportunity to write a book.

I’m the divorced guy who got a tiny bit famous for leaving dishes by the sink. But it turns out it was never really about the dishes.

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Matthew Fray, author of This is How Your Marriage Ends, featured in The New York Times, Wall Street Journal and The Atlantic, and on The Tamron Hall Show and NPR, continues his exploration of love and relationships, with the occasional bourbon assist.

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Matthew Fray

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Marriage and relationship coach. Likes to write and speak about relationship stuff. Author of "This is How Your Marriage Ends: A Hopeful Approach to Saving Relationships."