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Psst. Men. Share Your Innermost Thoughts and Feelings With Your Partner
Women should do this too, of course. It just so happens, very few of them need this pep talk.
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Matthew Fray
The Rules of Healthy, Loving Relationships That Endure
Sometimes, we grow to distrust our partner to care about us. It's either because they're doing it on purpose, or because they don't understand. We…
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If You Knew How to See It Your Spouse's Way, You'd Have Done Things Differently
But that doesn't lessen or negate or alleviate of us responsibility for the bad thing that happened to them, no matter how unaware we might have been…
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What Things Are Your Fault vs. Your Responsibility?
And while we're comparing ideas, what's the difference between a complaint and a criticism?
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Matthew Fray
What to Do When You Feel Like Nothing You Do is Good Enough for Your Spouse
A reader asked: "So I can't tell you what I actually need? I just have to pretend that you got there?"
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I'm Still an 'Oops Baby' but I'm Not the Reason My Parents Divorced. Neat!
My parents learned about the pregnancy when my mom's morning sickness appeared during their honeymoon. They didn't know about me prior to their wedding…
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December 2024

The Simple Power of 'I See You'
They're not alone as long as you're around. So please work hard at protecting them from feeling as if they are. It might not be easy. It will always be…
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Exploring the Intersection of 'Dyke Lesbians in Space' and the Quality of Your Marriage
If we're willing to spend a little time thinking about film and video games, maybe we can get there.
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I Want to Be and Feel Like I'm Good Enough, But Don't Always Know How
With great ease, I offer support and reassurance and attempt to lift up others. But I am somehow unable or unwilling to do that for myself.
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The Anatomy of a Healthy Marriage
If you're not already, please consider thinking about it this way
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