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How the Color Purple is Harming Your Relationships
Our brains sometimes invent new negatives to replace ones we've eliminated. If we're in relationships where repair is happening, this phenomenon can…
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Matthew Fray
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How Marital Affairs Happen: The Beautiful Stranger I Wanted to Sleep With While I Was Married
Her name was Donna. I only knew her for about five hours.
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Should Your Partner Always Do What You Want Them To?
Where's the line between someone enforcing healthy boundaries and demanding that their partner obey their wishes?
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Matthew Fray
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May 2025

Paid Subscriber Audio: How Often Do You & Your Partner Team Up to Overcome Obstacles or Achieve Success Together?
Even in seemingly small ways like playing board games or trivia night, when do you work well together to achieve shared success?
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Matthew Fray
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What's the Right Amount of Truth?
How much transparency do you and your partner want or need in order for security to exist in your relationship?
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Matthew Fray
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Paid Subscriber Audio: Noticing Your Wife & Mother on Mother's Day (and Every Other Day)
Please make sure the mothers in your life experience you this Mother's Day acknowledging, noticing, appreciating their role in your life and the lives…
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Matthew Fray
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'I just feel really alone and you seem to know what I'm going through'
Young woman, 21, seeks advice on connecting with her boyfriend, 26, who shuts down or 'abandons' her whenever she's emotional
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Matthew Fray
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Paid Subscriber Audio: Invalidation Goes Both Ways
And it sucks for everyone. Even super-tough military guys.
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Matthew Fray
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April 2025

The Clogged Shower Drain Problem
If you're going to move to a new house in six months anyway, is it really that important?
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Matthew Fray
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Paid Subscriber Audio: While Helping a Neighbor, He Took Longer Than His Wife Expected, Didn't Text Her & She Got Mad
What is your spouse/partner's assessment of how much they trust you to consider them? If you're unsure, please find out.
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Matthew Fray
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When Caring Feels Criticized: How to Speak Up Without Pushing Them Away
She doesn't want to say things he might experience as criticism. But doesn't she need to be able to say true things to him for their long-term…
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Matthew Fray
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You + Me + Our Phones = Modern Relationships
Like the internet itself, modern smartphones are both the best and worst things
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Matthew Fray
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