On the Rocks

November 2025

How Women Show Up as Selfish in Relationships

A magazine reporter is exploring whether women tend to become more self-centered and selfish after getting married and having children, and wonders why…

Nov 11, 2025 • Matthew Fray

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Stop F***ing Up Your Relationships

Join me for a two-night, live Relationships 101 Zoom event December 9-10 and let's make this holiday season one that strengthens, rather than harms, our…

Nov 4, 2025 • Matthew Fray

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August 2025

On the Anniversary of Another Wedding Anniversary That Isn't

Updates on my recent absence and a request for some networking assistance if you're in a position to do so

Aug 14, 2025 • Matthew Fray

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June 2025

How the Color Purple is Harming Your Relationships

Our brains sometimes invent new negatives to replace ones we've eliminated. If we're in relationships where repair is happening, this phenomenon can…

Jun 17, 2025 • Matthew Fray

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How Marital Affairs Happen: The Beautiful Stranger I Wanted to Sleep With While I Was Married

Her name was Donna. I only knew her for about five hours.

Jun 12, 2025 • Matthew Fray

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Should Your Partner Always Do What You Want Them To?

Where's the line between someone enforcing healthy boundaries and demanding that their partner obey their wishes?

Jun 11, 2025 • Matthew Fray

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May 2025

Paid Subscriber Audio: How Often Do You & Your Partner Team Up to Overcome Obstacles or Achieve Success Together?

Even in seemingly small ways like playing board games or trivia night, when do you work well together to achieve shared success?

May 23, 2025 • Matthew Fray

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What's the Right Amount of Truth?

How much transparency do you and your partner want or need in order for security to exist in your relationship?

May 20, 2025 • Matthew Fray

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Paid Subscriber Audio: Noticing Your Wife & Mother on Mother's Day (and Every Other Day)

Please make sure the mothers in your life experience you this Mother's Day acknowledging, noticing, appreciating their role in your life and the lives…

May 9, 2025 • Matthew Fray

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'I just feel really alone and you seem to know what I'm going through'

Young woman, 21, seeks advice on connecting with her boyfriend, 26, who shuts down or 'abandons' her whenever she's emotional

May 5, 2025 • Matthew Fray

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Paid Subscriber Audio: Invalidation Goes Both Ways

And it sucks for everyone. Even super-tough military guys.

May 2, 2025 • Matthew Fray

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