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My Father-in-Law's Death Exposed My Weaknesses as a Husband
Being mindful of the additional burdens weighing on our partner’s minds and hearts is one of the most effective ways we can show love
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Matthew Fray
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August 2023
How to Embrace the Repair Process in Your Relationships (Before It's Too Late)
A simple approach to repairing the damage in your relationships
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Matthew Fray
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How Marriage and Long-Term Partnerships are Like Old-Time Locomotive Steam Engines
Two people shoveling coal keep things running smoothly. One person shoveling coal can get you by temporarily while the other is busy or recovering. But…
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Matthew Fray
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July 2023
Two Years After Divorce
In real life, 10 years have passed since the worst days of my life. But once upon a time, it was only two years, which was a major milestone for feeling…
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Matthew Fray
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Protecting Your Partner From Feeling Invisible is Critical to Maintaining a Healthy Relationship
Mostly we're not trying to make people feel this way. Often, we don't even realize it. But that doesn't lessen the importance of ensuring that our loved…
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I Typically Ran Away From Fights with My Wife
Conflict-avoidant tendencies like mine (and those shared by millions of others) often lead to a relationship pattern almost certain to end marriage or a…
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Matthew Fray
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June 2023
When Divorce is Your Best Course of Action
How do you know when it's time to end things? Like most complicated life choices, that depends. Let's talk about it.
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Matthew Fray
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Unmasking Vulnerability: The Power of Courageous Conversations in Relationships
Dishonesty and the subsequent trust erosion that occurs from it doesn't always manifest as lies. Sometimes it's simply the absence of truth.
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Matthew Fray
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Why the Hell Not?
Reading "The Catcher in the Rye" for the first time in adulthood reignited the resentment I felt following my divorce. I thought I'd followed the Life…
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Matthew Fray
The Impending Empty Nest
What will restabilizing look and feel like when foundational people in our lives go away?
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Matthew Fray
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'Write Your Feelings'
A decade later, a random phone therapist's advice continues to change my life
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Matthew Fray
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