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Mentally Ill, Emotionally Damaged Women are the Real Problem in Relationships, Some Men Say
While internet comments are often the bane of every writer’s existence, they’re also great when you’re looking for something to light a fire.
Oct 18, 2023 • 
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Mentally Ill, Emotionally Damaged Women are the Real Problem in Relationships, Some Men Say
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I Typically Ran Away From Fights with My Wife
Conflict-avoidant tendencies like mine (and those shared by millions of others) often lead to a relationship pattern almost certain to end marriage or a…
Jul 21, 2023 • 
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I Typically Ran Away From Fights with My Wife
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How Marital Affairs Happen: The Beautiful Stranger I Wanted to Sleep With While I Was Married
Her name was Donna. I only knew her for about five hours.
Jun 12 • 
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How Marital Affairs Happen: The Beautiful Stranger I Wanted to Sleep With While I Was Married
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My Father-in-Law's Death Exposed My Weaknesses as a Husband
Being mindful of the additional burdens weighing on our partner’s minds and hearts is one of the most effective ways we can show love
Sep 12, 2023 • 
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My Father-in-Law's Death Exposed My Weaknesses as a Husband
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Psst. Men. Share Your Innermost Thoughts and Feelings With Your Partner
Women should do this too, of course. It just so happens, very few of them need this pep talk.
Jan 27 • 
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Psst. Men. Share Your Innermost Thoughts and Feelings With Your Partner
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How to Not be Defensive with Your Relationship Partner
Defensiveness is among the most common and damaging forms of toxic communication patterns.
Jun 13, 2024 • 
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How to Not be Defensive with Your Relationship Partner
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What to Do When You Feel Like Nothing You Do is Good Enough for Your Spouse
A reader asked: "So I can't tell you what I actually need? I just have to pretend that you got there?"
Jan 8 • 
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What to Do When You Feel Like Nothing You Do is Good Enough for Your Spouse
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When Divorce is Your Best Course of Action
How do you know when it's time to end things? Like most complicated life choices, that depends. Let's talk about it.
Jun 29, 2023 • 
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When Divorce is Your Best Course of Action
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Protecting Your Partner From Feeling Invisible is Critical to Maintaining a Healthy Relationship
Mostly we're not trying to make people feel this way. Often, we don't even realize it. But that doesn't lessen the importance of ensuring that our loved…
Jul 25, 2023 • 
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Protecting Your Partner From Feeling Invisible is Critical to Maintaining a Healthy Relationship
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On Men Who Don't Like Women
This isn't about sex, the activity. It's about sex, the biological designation.
Sep 10, 2024 • 
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Watch Out for These 6 Thought-Biases That Threaten Your Closest Relationships
Sure, our partners need to consider us and validate us, and they probably get that wrong sometimes. But also, we are responsible for noticing how our…
Feb 4 • 
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Watch Out for These 6 Thought-Biases That Threaten Your Closest Relationships
If You Knew How to See It Your Spouse's Way, You'd Have Done Things Differently
But that doesn't lessen or negate or alleviate of us responsibility for the bad thing that happened to them, no matter how unaware we might have been…
Jan 20 • 
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