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Mentally Ill, Emotionally Damaged Women are the Real Problem in Relationships, Some Men Say
While internet comments are often the bane of every writer’s existence, they’re also great when you’re looking for something to light a fire.
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I Typically Ran Away From Fights with My Wife
Conflict-avoidant tendencies like mine (and those shared by millions of others) often lead to a relationship pattern almost certain to end marriage or a…
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How Marital Affairs Happen: The Beautiful Stranger I Wanted to Sleep With While I Was Married
Her name was Donna. I only knew her for about five hours.
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My Father-in-Law's Death Exposed My Weaknesses as a Husband
Being mindful of the additional burdens weighing on our partner’s minds and hearts is one of the most effective ways we can show love
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Psst. Men. Share Your Innermost Thoughts and Feelings With Your Partner
Women should do this too, of course. It just so happens, very few of them need this pep talk.
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How to Not be Defensive with Your Relationship Partner
Defensiveness is among the most common and damaging forms of toxic communication patterns.
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What to Do When You Feel Like Nothing You Do is Good Enough for Your Spouse
A reader asked: "So I can't tell you what I actually need? I just have to pretend that you got there?"
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When Divorce is Your Best Course of Action
How do you know when it's time to end things? Like most complicated life choices, that depends. Let's talk about it.
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Protecting Your Partner From Feeling Invisible is Critical to Maintaining a Healthy Relationship
Mostly we're not trying to make people feel this way. Often, we don't even realize it. But that doesn't lessen the importance of ensuring that our loved…
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On Men Who Don't Like Women
This isn't about sex, the activity. It's about sex, the biological designation.
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Watch Out for These 6 Thought-Biases That Threaten Your Closest Relationships
Sure, our partners need to consider us and validate us, and they probably get that wrong sometimes. But also, we are responsible for noticing how our…
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If You Knew How to See It Your Spouse's Way, You'd Have Done Things Differently
But that doesn't lessen or negate or alleviate of us responsibility for the bad thing that happened to them, no matter how unaware we might have been…
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